So things didn't turn out right, does that make the past worthless?

So my wife realized/accepted/came to terms with her sexuality. One that's not the same as mine. I don't know when this happened, and I plan to discuss this and talk about it more, but the issue isn't about that really.

What do we do now? What is our future? What is my future? Who am I now that I am not her husband?

I knew the moment I first kissed her that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. What do I do with my life now? Who am I?

Obviously, we've got a lot to still discuss. Divorcing now has a lot of down sides. But waiting isn't such a good option either.

But I don't want to spend my life without her. But we can't go on like this either.

I guess we'll just have to see.